It’s impossible to keep perfect balance in all the intricacies of a relationship / attraction, make sure you err the right way when you find yourself unable to find a balance.

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1) On confidence, always err towards too much over too little. Arrogance is less attractive than confidence, but insecurity and self-deprecation aren’t attractive at all.

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2) On words, always err towards too few over too many. You will always do more wrong saying to much. “Brevity is the soul of wit”

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3) On communication, always err towards too little. Start 2 phone conversations for every 5 that she starts, send 7 texts for every 10 that you get, etc. You must be to busy making money or organizing a political coup to be constantly updating your facebook or texting back religiously.

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4) On availability, always err towards too little. If you are always too available or live with your current girlfriend, disappear for 3 weeks and come back with photos of you fighting crocodiles in hand to hand combat

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5) On attachment, always err towards too little. Oneitis is a devilish parasite that knows no bounds. You don’t have to be able to walk away from a relationship every time the cops are in front of your girlfriend’s house, but be weary of your dependency.

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6) On self-thought, always err towards too little. The moment your mind begins rationalizing or detracting is the moment you’ve self-destructed. The 3 second rule was created in pick-up so that guys approach before they have a chance to talk themselves out of it. Embrace action at all times.

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7) On women, always err towards too many. Seemingly obvious, the multitudes have a disturbing habit of entering a comfort zone after spinning 2 or 3 plates and then disregarding women until they sense pussy withdrawal symptoms again. “There are no marginal returns with women.” Roissy (Not applicable to exclusive relationships… unless you have enough Jedi Game to run concurrent relationships and have all your girlfriends be ok with it, in which case, touché. In an exclusive relationship, you remain loyal, but never disregard other women. An overly misplaced loyalty will NOT put you in the graces of your girlfriend, only make it seem like you have no other options.)

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8 ) On masculinity, always err towards too much. By this I don’t mean grow a long beard and never shower. In your everyday life you will be constantly making decisions involving habits of varying respectabilities. Choose the gym over World of Warcraft, choose watching boxing over cartoons, choose studying for finals over hanging out at the mall, Jack Daniel’s over a cosmo, Coffee as dark as possible, Cars that are faster, burping and farting loudly instead of holding them in, etc. (kidding about the last one… sort of)

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9) On planning, always too much. A date planned out with military accuracy that goes smoothly is still better than a date that goes horribly wrong but in a spontaneous fashion. Extra points for making planned out things look like pleasant surprises. Always remember the small things, like getting the flowers she casually mentioned she loved 2 years ago.

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10) On showing emotions, always too little. Unless you guys are a Gay couple.

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