Before you actually read the list of Alpha Male traits, I want to explain how this post is meant to be read / used.

Memorizing a list of “Alpha Male” traits and trying to impersonate those traits will NOT make you an Alpha Male. Being an Alpha Male is a mentality, not simply a style of behavior. That being said, changing your behavior WILL however, influence your mentality. (Read the post on how action precedes thought: How to Change Your Life Instantly).

If you ACT like an Alpha Male, you will FEEL like an Alpha Male. And by feeling more like an Alpha Male, you will act more like an Alpha male. I e; your behavior will create a positive loop which is exactly what you want.

More than any of the tips, personally, I’ve found that just staring at this picture of a gorilla to be quite inspirational. He’s unhindered by all the social phobias humans are subject to. An ideal Alpha Male, he’s calm and relaxed but can be ferocious and aggressive if he needs to be.

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Also, you’ll notice that this post is actually organized as a list of Alpha Male VERSUS Beta Male traits. I felt that it would help people understand things better if we contrasted the two.

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Beta Male Vs. Alpha Male

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1) Beta Male: Makes Excuses in Life for things he cannot do

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Alpha Male: Never puts the blame on someone else, always faces his obstacles head on regardless of the odds of success. Does not whine about problems, but aggressively works to find solutions to them

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*Next time you catch yourself about to say something like “I can’t do this because…” Stop yourself. Never let yourself make an excuse to someone else or yourself. If you can’t do something, blame yourself. By doing so, we actually EMPOWER ourselves because if WE are the reason something is not being done, then we ALSO have the power to FIX ourselves. If you think something like “I don’t go to the gym because I was born lazy,” you’ve stripped yourself of any power to change because you can’t change how you were born. If instead you think “I am lazy BECAUSE I am not going to the gym right now,” Then all you need to do is GO TO THE GYM to overcome your lazy mentality. You’ve turned the task of overcoming a personality defect into the task of simply getting up and jogging to the gym.

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2) Beta Male: Always cares about what others think of him. Very insecure about his image in society.

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Alpha Male: Confident about how others perceive him, those who look down on him or do not believe in him are not worth his time

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3) Beta Male: Talks fast, always seems to be nervous or in a rush.

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Alpha Male: Always in control of his life, talks slow and moves smoothly as if walking through water. Never gets nervous or fearful of anything.

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*Run to class or work if you have to, but RIGHT BEFORE you walk in, catch your breath and then make it look like you walked the entire way. First begin to create an image of smoothness and you will naturally start to become smoother.

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4) Beta Male: Lives life by the day not really knowing what he wants, always lazy and passive.

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Alpha Male: Lives life passionately, focused on his goals and dreams. Aggressively pursues all his goals and tears down any barriers in-between.

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*Alpha Males have dreams, passions, and ambitions. They are ALWAYS driven. You MUST find a goal you want to achieve, or create one.

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5) Beta Male: Gives up after he fails. Sees no point in trying and is fearful of facing failure again.

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Alpha Male: Failure is only a minor setback to him.

He looks forward to failure because the sooner he fails, the sooner he can learn from his mistakes and succeed.

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6) Beta Male: Always apologizes to others because he feels he might have offended them somehow.

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Alpha Male: Does not apologize for his desires and beliefs.

Apologizes only when he believes he really should, not to simply make others feel better. When he must apologize, he does so with honesty and sensitivity, his ego does not hold him back.

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7) Has a big ego, very sensitive and insecure to what other people say.

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Alpha Male: His ego is non-existent, a figment of his imagination. No one can put him down besides himself. Never feels like he must prove himself.

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*It’s a false myth that alpha males are supposed to have big egos. Big egos are a result of low-esteem, lack of control over ones emotion, and too much estrogen. Why would a guy who is truly confident in himself ever need to backlash against someone who insulted his ego?

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8) Beta Male: Always searching for approval and attention.

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Alpha Male: Does not seek attention, but always gets it. Always the most powerful presence in a room or area.

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*It’s funny because beta males are often begging for attention yet can never seem to get enough and alpha males never seem to want attention yet get too much. If you’ve ever been in a room with a bunch of beta males, an alpha male, and a bunch of girls, notice how the girls respond to the Alpha. If the Alpha even snorts, they all turn their heads to him whereas the beta needs to constantly entertain them.

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9) Beta Male: Does not admit to his faults and mistakes.

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Alpha Male: Knows that admitting a problem is the first step to recovery. He is not afraid to face his faults and overcome his failures.

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10) Beta Male: Gets Jealous really easily when he sees his girlfriend talking or flirting with another guy.

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Alpha Male: Is supremely confident in his ability and status.

If his girlfriend is talking to other guys, he goes to talk with other girls. He laughs at the thought of his girlfriend choosing another guy over him.

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11) Beta Male: Loses his temper when someone else criticizes him or when a girl disrespects him.

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Alpha Male: Never loses his composure. If something upsets him, he shows his disapproval of it WITHOUT getting mad or whining.

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12) Beta Male: Becomes Heart-broken when his girlfriend dumps him. Loses all hope in life and thinks that he cannot live without that “one girl.”

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Alpha Male: Is aware of the fact that there are thousands of other girls just as good or better than the girl who dumped him.

Never loses his passion in life. His life is not centered around one girl, and he has no problem moving on.

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13) Beta Male: Always looks messy, dirty, and badly groomed. His manners are degrading.

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Alpha Male: Has superior etiquette. Is always dressed and groomed well.

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*It is a proven fact that on days where we think we look better, we are happier and thus exude more confidence

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14) Beta Male: Is Shy and afraid to meet new people.

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Alpha Male: Extroverted, always excited and ready to meet new people. A natural born leader, and always confident in his own abilities and character. Very charismatic and outspoken.

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15) Beta Male: Stands and sits uncomfortably, as if he is nervous. Wants to show that he is non-threatening.

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Alpha Male: Takes up space whenever he sits down or rests. Is in control of his surroundings. Nothing surprises or startles him.

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16) Beta Male: Is always eager to come into a relationship and desperate for a girlfriend.

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Alpha Male: Is never desperate for anything, never begs for anything. He knows that he can get girls, he is not desperate for their attention or affection.

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17) Beta Male: Is at the beckoning of other girls and willing to commit to them as soon as they give him the greenlight.

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Alpha Male: Poses a challenge to other women. He does not throw himself at girls.

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18) Beta Male: Blames the external world for his faults, “I’m just not good looking enough, life is just too hard, I missed my interview because of traffic.”

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Alpha Male: Knows that change is an internal process. He does not blame others for his own mistakes and faults because that would be taking away his power to change things.

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19) Beta Male: Becomes wide-eyed when he sees someone do something

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Alpha Male: Is never impressed. He may give credit where it’s due, but he never has a spaz attack because someone did something impressive.

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