When you were in drivers ed, what did they teach you about skidding?

When your car skids, you must turn the wheel INTO the skid. When you’re actually IN a skid,

What do your natural instincts tell you to do? Slam the breaks, which of course, sends your car into an uncontrollable tailspin.

What’s the first thing they tell you when you learn to trade stocks? De-void yourself of all emotion, especially hope.

The glimmering possibility of a “turn-around” has wiped out many a trader.

A trader’s natural instinct to hold onto something he has ego-invested himself into MUST be mitigated as much as possible.

I was recently counseling a guy who came out of a bad break up.

He’s 26, in law school, and had trouble focusing on his studies because of the break up.

My first advice to him was to stop calling his ex (which he did about three times a day), and to stop professing his love to her over texts

(He sent her no less than 3 soliloquies a week). His immediate response like any self-invested AFC was

“Why? I don’t want to play games, I want to tell her how I really feel.”

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Our default reactions to many things in life, like skidding, feeling jealous, or reveling in approach anxiety are counter-productive,

Yet we indulge in them endlessly. This is no more pronounced than in our love lives.

When our significant other draws away because they need space, what’s our first reaction?

Pull away and give them space / time to miss us, or push even harder and demand that over-bearing feeling of security and assurance?

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The goal of game is not to mind-fuck women, rather it is to sublimate your instincts and re-set your default path

Of action to what is correct, not what “feels” right. We do what “feels” right because it incorporates the path

That has the least amount of resistance. It’s easy to beg for forgiveness, to endlessly convey love, to renounce yourself of discipline.

You WANT to feel bad for yourself, to victimize your own identity. In the end however, this is simply a denial of reality.

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The AFC in question ended up being unplugged after a 3½ hour online conversation which included severe brain fucking,

A dismantling of all his pre-conceived notions about relationships, and a de-bunking of love

(Btw, I am utterly amazed at how much someone is willing to share with a stranger,

It makes me realize how rare it is to find someone to ACTUALLY listen to you nowadays).

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Predictably, his girlfriend came back after a 3-week withdrawal period.

You would think that a pretty good-looking guy at Emory Law School would be dating at-least like an HB8 brunette right?

This woman was a 35-year-old cougar with 2 kids. Either true love exists, or she has some serious Siren skills.

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