We are not here to judge people, to label people, or to categorize acts based on moral debasement;

All of that can be left to blogs created by AFCs and ultra feminists. Truthfully, cheating is much more of a complex subject than it seems. From an evolutionary perspective both genders differ heavily on their incentives to cheat and even after you differentiate based on genders, the incentives for women to cheat branch out even further. It would take an entire encyclopedia to fully exhaust the topic. So, I decided I’d make multiple posts on the subject, but for now I’m just going to talk about emotional cheating by women. Because of the very nature of this topic, this post might be a long one so bear with me.

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Emotional cheating by women occurs when they are more attracted to another male than their partner. Attraction has been made out to be an enigmatic concept by the multitudes; constantly propagated by phrases like “women don’t know what they want” or “it’s impossible to understand women.” In truth, it’s a very easy concept and we can strip down its mystical facade by looking at it from an objective Darwinian point of view.

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Sex is god, as Freud would say, and I’ve never heard of a more true statement. Ensuing their basic survival instincts, every organism is programmed to do one thing, reproduce efficiently. I highlight the word efficiently because this is where the huge fuss over attraction and love come into play. Attraction is simply a natural urge to mate with a partner who will give you the best offspring. It is a psychological impetus created to maximize an organism’s reproductive capabilities.

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Now from here, we can see why the subject of cheating becomes so much more complicated. For men, it’s simple. 90% of the time men will cheat because they just couldn’t keep it in their pants. Why? Because for a man, their biological payout will ALWAYS increase by cheating. It is naturally more productive for them to have sex with more than 1 female, at all times. There is never, ever, a single moment in their lives where it would be favorable for them to stay monogamous.

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Now for a woman, it’s very different. Say a girl is going out with a guy she has a 90% interest level with. If she goes out to a club and meets 9 guys whom she is less attracted to, there is no imperative to cheat. Her biological payout would DECREASE if she mated with someone LESS alpha than her boyfriend. However, there is still a desire to flirt, talk, and otherwise engage themselves with other guys because Procuring attention can be done WITHOUT sharing intimacy. They fulfill their need for attention while avoiding a moral encroachment AND they can save sex for their boyfriend, the guy with the most superior genes.

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Now say instead your girlfriend starts “liking” another guy. What does this mean? Trying to analyze the situation based on the specifics of your scenario is going to drown you in ego-assuaging bullshit. Let go of all the specifics of your crisis. If your girlfriend likes another guy, she is being coveted by a natural compulsion to be with a guy more Alpha than you OR because her singular attraction for you is not enough to mitigate her need for attention from other guys. There is literally no other reason.

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Everything else is simply an extension of her primal instinct to be attracted to the male with the best genes. Women are naturally pulled at all times to whichever male will produce the most superior offspring the same way males are pulled to mate with EVERY single hot girl in the world. (Guys are physically attracted to females that will produce the healthiest offspring)

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If you’re wondering why we still have institutions like marriage then and why women are not constantly leaving their boyfriends for more dominant men, it’s because of cultural stigma and the continuous socialization of humans. In the animal kingdom, we see a monopolization of sex by Alphas; this isn’t prevalent in human society. However, you can still see glimpses of our natural instincts ripping away at our socially constructed prisons. The wife who cheats on her husband on a one night fling (she was more attracted to another guy, but came back to her husband because of her provisional needs, hence satisfying both her need for reproduction AND nourishment),

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The Alpha who steals everyone’s girlfriend, or the increasingly frightening divorce rates of modern society. On another note, for girls, it is not always strategic to leave a relationship based on a default attraction for another guy. If girls did this, they would be left alone more often than not. Women must continuously juggle their two options be with a guy more dominant who is more likely to cheat, or be with a guy less dominant but more likely to give you protection / nourishment.

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If girls followed their vagina tingles every second of the day, Alphas would have harems the size of Greek temples, But women would be left with a lack of nourishment. Hence a girl might cheat on a lesser beta, but if she’s happy in a relationship with a lesser Alpha, it is unlikely she will run off with a Super Alpha quarterback CEO who she KNOWS is going to cheat on her and leave her by herself with 4 kids. Thus, your girlfriend is unlikely to leave you instantly if Tom Cruise ever walked by.

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Based on the incentives for cheating, the signs will differ. When a guy cheats for purely physical pleasure, his romantic interests may stay the same. That’s why if you go on Fem boards, you’ll see lists of epic proportions that tell you about extremely logistical tactics to catch men cheating (he used THIS excuse, he comes home late regularly, he deletes his texts). When a girl cheats for emotional reasons you don’t need a list of signs, it will be shamelessly obvious. Her attraction for someone else will manifest itself as full-blown emotional withdrawal following with increased nagging, lack of sex, and a harsh indifference. More importantly, she will make her attraction for another guy blatant, and her obligation to you will only harbor resentment.

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Emotional cheating isn’t always an end-all be all, simply because the degree of infidelity can differ. If for example, you’re in a one-year LTR and you’ve been acting like a beta for the past month and your girlfriend just met a guy who gives her an extra-ordinary amount of tingles, you still have a large enough margin to regain attraction. This is where you need to remind yourself that the rules of engagement are universal, attraction is created the same way whether you are gaming a girl on the third day or making your wife of 10 years tremble with allure. What you SHOULDN’T do is try and cultivate rapport. This of course, is what we are naturally INCLINED to do but must avoid at all costs. Don’t buy her gifts or try and prove to her how much you love her; it won’t do anything for your cause. Your woman must swoon for you, getting all mushy will only feed her resentment.

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This is by far the most crucial thing you need to remember to avoid a cataclysmic fall-out. You MUST act counter-intuitively. DON’T become needier or more desperate, beta backsliding will be punished swiftly.

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After a certain point, perhaps if you regressed too much into betadom, your girlfriend’s attraction level will be much to low to attempt a save. In this case you’re on a sinking boat going further and further away from shore. The longer you take to jump ship, the longer you’ll have to swim back to save yourself.

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Avoid rationalizing her behavior. Men, especially AFCs, have this uncanny ability to justify all of their girlfriend’s moral intrusions. If your girlfriend treats you like shit or clearly likes somebody else, just leave man, please. The more you ego-invest yourself into a soul-sucking relationship, the harder you make life for yourself. Your first goal in love should be to avoid Oneitis, not to save a broken relationship.

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If you verbally accept your girlfriend’s emotional cheating, i e; you guys OVERTLY discuss and you say “it’s ok, we’ll get over it” Or you take her back after she tells you she likes someone else, you’ve doomed yourself to a terrible fate. When you take back a girl under circumstances like these, you immediately put yourself into a submissive state in your relationship. The vast difference between how much your girlfriend needs you and how much you need your girlfriend will tear your relationship apart. Worse yet, it will drive you into the deepest crevices of betadom known to mankind.

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Now I just want to address two more issues because I’m sure many guys are immediately wondering about certain “un-explainable” phenomena. Why for example, do woman exist who hook up with random guys at parties even when they’re “happy” in their relationships? Unless she is consciously aware and fearful of LOSING her boyfriend if she cheats, a woman’s need for attention from other guys can still out weigh her need to be in a relationship. It is ALWAYS favorable for a girl to get more attention from other guys the same way that it’s ALWAYS favorable for guys to have sex with multiple females.

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The reason for the confusion also occurs because physical / emotional pleasures are often “cross-bred.” For example, a girl hooking up with a guy is STILL a way for her to get “mental attention” and a guy getting emotional attention from a girl who is NOT his girlfriend is still a way for him to get “sex” (there is now another girl more willing to have sex with him). Stop thinking in absolutes; what I want you to notice most of all from this, is how dynamic socio-psychological concepts can be. These examples are NOT exceptions, the laws of bio mechanics are simply much more complicated than people like to assume.

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On a personal note, I just want to say that I would never, ever condone cheating. Not just because of my cheesy inviolable moralistic concerns, I just think that a man really is only as good as his word. Despite how much I hate the feminized matrix of society, we need to take it as it is and hurting another human being is one of those things that make my stomach fuzzy. Compassion is strength of heart, not weakness of mind.

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Finally there’s the possibility that your partner might cheat out of resentment, especially if you’ve cheated on them before and you’re relationship starts heading to the gallows. In general, it’s a good idea to leave when you and your girlfriend are simply exchanging blows (No pun intended). Of course, this can be done both physically and emotionally. Both you and your girlfriend can convince yourselves that you like someone else, but really the shows gonna be over in about three weeks. Love is a Thermonuclear emotion; defy it at your own peril.

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